FINDING ME
On self-Identity and
human complexities
It is quite common that every day, we
discover something different about ourselves, discover that we transition and
grow into new things. Settling on an idea could be easily misconstrued as
absolute decisiveness but in reality, we are only exploring.
Somehow, we evolve into ourselves more each
day as we grow older, some of us have a more rapid process and some of us take
our time but self-identity encompasses so much more than we can dare to
imagine. It is in the way we talk, our habitual indulgence, our thought
process, our communication approach, our sense of style and even in how we
conduct our daily activities.
Finding your own identity is a process. It’s
not a camping spot but more of like filling a vacuum in existence gradually
with your own unique presence. Somehow a lot of people these days get it wrong.
They allow their lives to be thought through by someone else. Cloning someone else’s
identity but never quite occupying their presence.
Give your brain a chance to think and you’ll
be surprised at the results. Allow yourself decide your own choices and
preferences. You do not have to do things because everyone is doing them. You should
be interested in what fulfills you as an individual and not be ashamed of it.
Have the convenient discussion with
yourself about everything you have known, everything you have been taught,
question it all. Question until you’re sure that you are happy doing these
things.
Inspiration of course is not necessarily a
bad thing but inspiration does not mean you become a copy-cat. Inspiration
means you appreciate art and develop your own from its basis. The true concept
of the fluidity of the human ability to adapt does not translate to a complete
change of a person’s individuality to fit in. Sometimes being comfortable
enough with your own identity to stand out is more gratifying.
In the process of building yourself, you
might find that you have some peculiar characteristics, don’t shield them to
pacify society’s need to put us all in a box and label each and every
individual. It’s okay to not be able to define what you are, as long as you
feel it and you know it the rest is nobody’s business.
The world is far too boring these days,
people far to the same, this is perhaps as a result of a prolonged period of conditioning.
Everyone can be unique, everyone can standout if and only if we perhaps stop
living conditioned lives and start finding ourselves. Every day is apparently a
new adventure and every day, you can discover something completely new about
yourself and it’s okay if this process never stops no one is qualified to judge
its longevity anyway.
My
friend has harangued me for not exactly putting up a post valentine’s day themed,
so here’s the thing. I refuse to, and have never indulged the commercialised
exploitation of valentine’s day which is invariably functional as most
holidays. Perhaps it is because I do not understand the premise to which we are
asked to show love once in a year (Or perhaps because I have been single through
every valentine’s LOL, I joke) or the over-priced and excessive need to buy
things we might cut our teeth to pay for. An Obligation to show love, to me
removes the sentimental value of the gesture. But what do I know!
And if you have been planning to gift me some
incredible stuff don’t let my carefully worded post deter you, I’ll take it all
like how I indulge overeating during the holidays without really observing the
holiday. It’s just ample use of opportunity people, I’m most definitely not a
sell-out.
P.S I’ve gotten emails and DMs and messages and verbal
talk that quite a number of people are unable to comment on my posts, I do
sincerely apologise for the inconvenience and will get to working on it ASAP
but do keep trying. Thanks for your continued support.
Instagram; Ene_ijato
With Love, Yours Truly.
Wearing cashmere jacket by Visit// Vintage tweaked
flared raw-hemmed crop-trousers(Hand me down from the mom)// White over-sized
shirt by Topshop // silk scarf by the Chinese
6 comments
You basically just echoed the conversation I had earlier this morning..... all the way down to My indulgence in the Holidays (while not actively participating) being purely opportunistic.
ReplyDeleteI guess that's why I love this Blog so much. More often than not you tend to echo my thoughts in a more cohesive and Beautifully written manner(the amazing snapshots ceartinly aren't doing any harm tho��). Happy Chocolate Exchange day Ene
Sorry doe the late reply Wales I appreciate and enjoy reading your comments so much. Lol I'm glad we both share the opportunist mindset.
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DeleteVery deep topic we have here...a nice form of expression and presentation especially the ' unique presence' part. "Have the convenient discussion with yourself" - really! Isn't there a word for that, oh yeah...schizo. And I add, if everyone made an effort to be unique wouldn't we jst be conforming to a new form of idealist anti-conditionalism? A very interesting piece, good job.
ReplyDeleteI do not ask people to make an effort to be unique, rather I ask they start making a conscious decision to decide for themselves. There is nothing more unique than identifying with who you are not what you're taught or conditioned to be and if this is a conform then I dare say its as good as conforming could get. Thanks for the read
ReplyDeleteEager to hear your thoughts!